Whether you’re sexting a new potential from a dating app or your lover while you’re stuck in quarantine, Sinful‘s expert-approved tips are perfect for you. Don’t forget that consent is key and you should only share your desires with people who respect you and of course, turn you on.
1. Take it slow.
Sexting is no different from IRL play, in that foreplay is everything. You have to ease your way into the antics. Experts suggest verbally teasing your partner to get things going. Try a suggestive text like, “I’ve been thinking about kissing those lips all day.”
2. Save your words and paint a sensual picture.
Describe what you have on — or don’t have on. “Create sensual sorcery by focusing on colors, sensations and tastes within your messages,” says Ditte Jensen, Sinful’s sexual wellness expert. The beauty of sexting during quarantine is that you don’t actually have to be in the finest of lingerie or even nude, as long as you feel sexy, your partner should catch the vibe.
3. Sex toys. Sex toys. Sex toys.
Sex toys are known for enhancing any experience, and sexting isn’t exempt. Describe how you’d use your favorite toy while rubbing it against your nipples. Tell them how you want to use their favorite toy on them. The options are kinky and endless.
4. Don’t skimp on the compliments.
Are you enticed and wanting more? Affirm your partner and let them know how they’re doing. It’s natural to get stumped because you’re only using your words (and maybe pictures too if you’re feeling risqué). Bypass awkwardness and be upfront about how you feel. If the vibe does fall off or it’s headed in a direction that doesn’t turn you on, no worries. Try sexting your partner what you want them to do to you next and lead them in the right direction.
5. Communication is key (duh).
Obvious, but a necessary reminder that you need consent before sending anything sexual. Also make sure you communicate your needs before sexting, so you can make sure you’re respecting their boundaries without body language as a tell. “Communicating your sexual wants and desires can feel vulnerable at first, but once you are comfortable, it can amp up the intimacy in your sex life” says Jensen.