Feeling Inspired by 'Challengers'? Check Out This Expert's Threesome Tips
Lovehoney’s relationship expert Annabelle Knights spills the tea.
Challengers… Zendaya… threesomes… it’s all anyone’s talking about after the film’s April release. In case you’re feeling inspired by pop culture’s obsession with throuples and threesomes, leading sex toy company, Lovehoney taps its expert Annabelle Knight for her top tips.
As exciting as triads, another name for throuples, may seem, they can open a world of complications. Knight says, “If you’re in a relationship, bringing up the topic of threesomes, or anything new in the bedroom with your partner for the first time can be daunting.” If you’re nervous about initiating the conversation, you won’t be the first and definitely won’t be the last.
“The most common worry amongst couples looking to try a threesome,” Knight continued, “is that it will cause friction or jealousy that could jeopardize your current relationship, so take this time to discuss these worries.” To start, it’s time to dust off our favorite buzzword: boundaries. Threesomes are all about having fun and exploring new styles of pleasure. Boundaries, on the other hand, keep things from getting complicated.
“It’s important to respect everyone’s boundaries. The main thing though, is to have fun, and try experimenting with different positions and dynamics. With an extra person involved, there is double the amount to explore than when you’re having partnered sex so get curious about what you want to try.”
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1. Discuss worries: ”As above, discuss any worries you or your partner might have and work these out before you move forward with any concrete plans.”
2. Who will it be: “Figure out the type of person you’re looking for, and what you’d both like to get out of the experience. Part of this is working out whether you’d be more comfortable with a friend or acquaintance, or looking for someone new to both of you. A lot of couples opt for someone they don’t have any prior connection with – to avoid any potentially awkward friendship dynamics down the line.”
3. Get searching: “To find someone new, a lot of couples will set up a joint profile on a dating website or app, so this could be a good place to start.”
4. Set boundaries: “Once you’ve found a third, before jumping into bed it’s important to have a discussion about boundaries and limitations. This can include deciding which acts or positions you feel comfortable exploring and anything you want to rule out completely. This applies for everyone; whether you’re single or loved up, it’s important to be clear and respectful about boundaries from the get-go.”
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