ICYMI: Men Are Spilling Their "Quiet Dumping" Secrets on Twitter
Quiet quitting meets its match in the latest dating trend.
“The phase where you start hating your girl is crazy,” one Twitter user sounded off on the timeline. Shortly after, the tweet sent into the void became a trending topic with heterosexual men sharing their personal stories. Unfortunately, the stories shared were very sinister. “When you keep messing up on purpose so that she can break up with you and she keeps forgiving you,” the user wrote. Another chimed in with, “You would be ghosting her and she would still be texting you ‘I just want to make sure you are okay, you can talk to me.’”
Where some people may think they’re being supportive partners, the responses reveal that’s not always wanted. In a new Glamour article, the publication coins the term “quite dumping” as the latest dating trend where a “partner gradually distances themselves without seeking an open conversation, hoping that the other person will become aware of the problem on their own and, in the best case, end the relationship on their own.”
According to Twitter, however, it’s a trend that has been terrorizing women for generations — they just didn’t know it. The publication parallels “quiet dumping” to “quiet quitting,” where one quietly does the bare minimum at work, refusing to go the extra mile for an employer or deepen the relationship.
As many on Twitter pointed out during the “hate your girlfriend” discourse, quiet dumping is a product of avoidant attachment and a sign to seek help.