These Bisexual Women Debunk The Most Harmful Bi Stereotypes
HER dating app taps its very own to share their stories.
In celebration of Bisexual Awareness Week, HER dating app conducts a survey, aiming to debunk the most outdated bi stereotypes.
A 2022 study found that 57% of LGBTQIA+ Americans are bisexual. Yet, after years of welcoming the queer community, Americans still succumb to a number of harmful stereotypes. To help people reject these outdated stereotypes and norms, HER taps its bisexual team members.
Here are their stories.
“They’re just seeking attention”
“When one of my boyfriends came out as bi+ to my family, it did not go well. ‘Oh honey’ – they gave me the most condescending looks, convinced their nice Catholic daughter had been hoodwinked by a secretly gay man who was using me to stay in the closet. Little did they know how gay my life would actually become. Moral of the story? Venmo a bi+ person $10 right now, because we’re tired,” shared Taylor Gobar, head of marketing for HER.
Fetishization and sexualization <
“One thing that has really driven me crazy over the years in my professional life is when a CIS man I’m working with finds out that I’m bi and was previously married to a man (I’m now married to a woman). It seems to cause some sort of meltdown in their brains where they seem to think it’s okay to ask me really personal questions. I can just see this light go on in their heads where I’ve suddenly moved from the lesbian-never-going-to-happen category to the completely-fuckable lane,” said Evie Smith Hatmaker who leads PR for HER.
“They’ll leave you for a man”
“The assumptions folks make in my relationship is wild. I’m 100% accepted in queer spaces with my partner until it’s made known that I’m not a lesbian. The vibe changes and all of a sudden it’s like I’m an invader. My partner (who is a lesbian) has actually been warned about ‘people like me’ in front of my face like I wasn’t even there. She’s also been treated like some kind of traitor for wanting to be with someone who isn’t a gold star lesbian. Like, I’m sorry our 13 years together threatens you, babe, but we are doing just fine without your stereotypes and bullshit,” revealed Jill O’Sullivan, Community Manager and Customer Support Specialist here at HER.
The bottom line:
Each of these stereotypes and modes of treating bisexual people is harmful as it doesn’t leave safe spaces for bi people to exist. As HER bisexual founder and CEO Robyn Exton shared, ” To feel like you don’t have acceptance from your own community must feel really lonely and we just want all our current and future bi+ users to know they have a home here with us. We see you.”
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