Is Your Relationship Healthy? Here Are 5 Trust-Worthy Signs
Five women discuss ditching toxicity and welcoming healthy love.
In true Twitter form, a viral tweet encourages women to share their dating stories. But instead of the usual toxic tales, this time women recount the moment they knew they finally hit the jackpot with a healthy relationship.
When you add in mental wellness — or lack thereof — and the games that people play to avoid being hurt, dating becomes all the more tricky. In the simplest of terms, a healthy relationship offers safety, trust and fidelity. According to the ladies of Twitter, or X as Elon Musk prefers, healthy relationships require a key trait: kindness.
I want to know like for all the girlies that have been in healthy relationships… HOW? What is the tea? What are you non-negotiable? What are red flags that make you say hell no? How do you know if it’s going to be healthy? How…
— S (@Theylovestorm_) December 19, 2023
Most importantly, however, many women were able to spot their healthy dynamics by first looking internally. One user revealed that this clicked when she realized she knew exactly who she was, and had no interest in “accepting anything else but the best.” Those who have been in toxic dynamics and are now in healthy relationships reported the biggest red flag being a partner who blames their actions on others. Whether he was easily angered in an argument or questioning their motives, blame was always the default behavior, instead of ownership.
Curious to know if your relationship is healthy? Here’s what the women of Twitter have to say:
How a man speaks about women tells me everything.
— emily cheree (@cdxliv444) December 20, 2023
One thing I appreciate about my BF is how we disagree. There’s no name calling, low blows, physical altercations. Straight accountability and adult conversations. It’s always us vs the problem instead of me vs him. 2024 will make 4 years we’ve been together 🫶🏼
— Bri.♓️ (@__VanillaICE__) December 19, 2023
if he punches a wall at any time, run. if he ever says look what you made me do in anger after doing something hurtful or scary, run. if you are scared at any point, run. mommy issues? run
feeling secure, safe, and able to breathe is what’s most important.
— chad, american cutie (@endofanerajc) December 20, 2023
There was never any honeymoon phase. It gets better and better over time. We were a slow burn and we were friends with benefits first. Everything we did for each other was with pure intention and no obligation. 3 years living together both working from home. He’s my best friend
— thick latina 🎂 (@russianbarbii) December 20, 2023
Being able to create secure emotional attachment and safety with a partner are crucial elements to a healthy relationship. You need to find someone who takes complete accountability for their actions, words, trauma, triggers, conditioning and fear responses and who is willing to…
— Peppermint and Dusty (@PeppermintDusty) December 20, 2023
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