How To Open Your Monogamous Relationship
Threesome expert, Gigi Engle, shares everything you need to know.
Ethical or consensual non-monogamy is having a resurgence thanks to millennials and Gen Z. Where it was once highly stigmatized and taboo, the veil is lifting and people are becoming increasingly open about their desire to explore the dating style. According to 3Fun’s latest study, “43% of millennials stated their preferred relationship type is consensual non-monogamy, with one-third of Americans stating that some form of non-monogamy is their ideal relationship type.” Other brands in the sex industry like LELO, and lesbian dating app HER have also found that polyamory is a priority for their clientele, while Tinder found that situationships — the less ethical sibling of polyamory, are trending for Gen Z, too.
There are several different styles of ethical non-monogamy from “threesomes, poly, or swinging,” shares Engle. As a result, she suggests couples “become clear on what they want,” and set specific intentions. While you explore, “be as flexible as possible to the needs and desires of your partners. This also rings true for solving problems and managing expectations. Allowing flexibility for everyone involved, especially at the start of the relationship, will help these relationships run smoothly.”
Lastly, remember that communication is your bestie. “Once you know what you want, communicate that to your partner(s)” Engle says. If you’re in a relationship, “communicate your desires, be clear with expectations, set boundaries and keep communication active.” For those who are single and exploring, “be upfront and honest with any new partners to ensure they are aware and on board with being in a consensually non-monogamous relationship.”
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