Plot Twist, Incels Know They're the Problem — They Just Don't Care
An expert on how the movement’s progression increasingly harms women.
For some time, it’s been understood that incels are just miserable people, blaming the world — specifically women — for their dreadful sex lives. However, Thomas shared “Incels see many reasons for their singlehood, including social awkwardness, poor flirting skills and not being good-looking enough.” Overall, they do not see themselves as worthy partners, something Thomas refers to as a “lower self-perceived mate value.”
In his article, Thomas writes that incels surely display “a tendency towards interpersonal victimhood,” which raises the question: is this why they’re so f-cking miserable? Imagine, you’re insecure and have a sh-tty sex and dating life and ultimately know it’s due to your own shortcomings — so much so, that they turn around and attack women.
Thomas’ article closes on a note of how to support incels, which makes sense as the publication is Psychology Today. However, the scope of the conversation leads to yet another question. Is attacking women the fuel that gives them power? From blue pill and red pill conversations to incel forums that incite retaliation, it seems that addressing their deep-rooted insecurities has no appeal.
Attacking a group that is already deemed as less than in society’s eye — women — makes them feel empowered, versus insufficient. Although Thomas writes of solutions and methodology that can help incels develop better relationship skills, it appears this is a problem incels don’t feel motivated to change, as the change, does not come with the much-needed power trip.
And on that note, we pose our closing questions: What will it take for the incel movement to reach its end? Relationship therapists — but for incels? Unrelenting shame that ultimately dismantles this harmful ideology?
Who f-cking knows? But one thing’s for sure, it shouldn’t be a woman’s problem.