4 Things To Know About Kink Before Watching Netflix's 'Love and Leashes'
The new Korean romantic comedy explores BDSM relationships.
South Korean Netflix film Love and Leashes is the kinky love story that romantic comedy fans have been waiting for. In the film, two coworkers enter the most spontaneous kink dynamic when new employee Jung Ji-hoo (Lee Jun-young) is accidentally outed in the workplace for his love of BDSM.
Workplace vet Jung Ji-woo (Seohyun) mistakenly receives a package that was meant for her new people-pleaser of a coworker. The package in question? A large spiked collar that screams “I’m a submissive.” In the kink community, collars are actually an indicator of being a sub. In true anxious fashion, Ji-hoo completely drops the ball and Ji-woo learns that her coworker is a BDSM enthusiast. Foolproof tip: never send your kink props to your place of work.
The two end up agreeing to join a three-month contracted agreement where Ji-woo is Ji-hoo’s dominant. While Ji-hoo is obviously thrilled that he has a sexy new dominant, he has no idea where this kink affair will take him. The show has so many plot holes, like Ji-hoo sending his kinky items to his workplace, but nonetheless, the drama is enough to make for a funny and unique Valentine’s Day watch party.
But before watching Love and Leashes, there are a few things about kink you should know.
1. Kink doesn’t equate to love
Often, people forget that sex and love aren’t the same because of how great feel-good hormones are, especially when they find a person who doesn’t shame them for their sexual urges. However, sex and love are two separate actions. Make sure you discern between the two.
2. Having a submissive is not an excuse to ignore consent
In dominant and submissive dynamics, the submissive actually holds a lot more power. If the submissive doesn’t give consent, there’s no kink to engage in. Also, no matter what type of play you’re participating in, there should always be consent from all parties involved. Like Hye-mi (Lee El) says in the film, “Just because I’m perverted doesn’t mean you can treat me like shit.”
3. Communication is key
Be clear about what you like and what you want. In the real world, you may not stumble upon the perfect domme in the workplace. But, you owe it to yourself to be honest about what you want to experience.
4. Never kink-shame
People will always have different interests than you, especially sexually, but that’s no reason to judge or shame others for what they enjoy. Sex should be about pleasure, not avoiding shame.
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