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The Best Break Up Advice, As Told by Experts

From “feeling the feels” to rediscovering your sensuality, here’s what you deserve.

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Sex toy brand We-Vibe taps Dr. Shamyra Howard for tips on reclaiming your sexuality – amidst the pre-summer split’s.

With summer right around the corner, “cuffing season” — if we’re still calling it that — is over and singeldom is on the rise. According to Google Trends, break ups are a trending topic for the girls. As We-Vibe shared with us, “In the aftermath of a breakup, many individuals find themselves grappling with a range of emotions, including feelings of inadequacy and disconnection from their own sexuality.” If this sounds like you, just know that break up’s suck but there’s a stronger, more confident and even more lovable version of you waiting on the other side.

To help you reclaim your sexuality and confidence during your break up, keep reading.

Feel Your Feelings:

Ignoring how you feel won’t make you stronger. As Dr. Howard shared: “Grant yourself the time and space to mourn the loss. Whether through journaling, therapy sessions or setting aside designated moments for grief, allow yourself to acknowledge and process your emotions.”

Slow Care:

Just like the beauty of a slow morning, giving yourself the grace to move slowly through grief is a gift. “Embrace the concept of slow care, nurturing yourself through mindfulness practices like yoga, journaling, or simply immersing yourself in nature. Prioritize activities that promote self-compassion and holistic well-being during this transitional phase.”

Set Boundaries:

“Establish clear boundaries with your ex-partner to safeguard your emotional health. Limiting contact and unfollowing them on social media can be crucial steps in fostering healing and moving forward.”

Self-Reflection:

“Take time to reflect on the breakup, assessing how it aligns with your personal values and goals. Seek support from trusted confidants or therapy to navigate feelings of guilt and loss, prioritizing your own growth and well-being.”

Communication and Consent:

Now, when you’re ready to dive back into your sex life, there are a few ways to approach it. “Before embarking on new sexual experiences, communicate openly about your relationship status and boundaries with potential partners. Prioritize mutual pleasure and exploration, free from comparisons to past experiences.”

Embrace Solo Sex:

“Masturbation can be a helpful tool for coping with heartbreak. Embrace your fantasies without judgment, acknowledging that it’s normal to think about your ex during this time. Consider exploring new forms of sexual intimacy, such as audio erotica or porn, to enhance your solo experiences.”

Rediscover Your Sensuality:

“Reinvent your sexual pleasure by exploring new avenues such as sex toys and lingerie. A toy like the We-Vibe Touch X is a great way to explore erogenous zones. A bundle pack like the Silver Delights Collection includes a clitoral suction toy and a bullet vibrator so you can experience both types of stimulation.”

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To shop We-Vibe’s luxury sex toys, visit its website.

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