How To Enjoy Anal Sex, According to an Intimacy Expert
Happy National Anal Sex Day.
Threesome dating app 3Fun taps its in-house intimacy expert Gigi Engle for National Anal Sex Day.
According to research, “72% of Americans have tried anal play, with 69% being Gen Z, 74% being Millennials, and 69% being Gen X.” Anal is clearly the hype right now, and other sexual wellness gurus like Lovehoney have shared the same, in its 2023 sex trend report. However, although people are warming up to the idea — it can still be intimidating due to fears of pain, and of course, poop.
For expert advice on how to enjoy anal orgasms, keep reading.
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1. Rimming and lots of lube. “Rimming, also known as oral-anal sex, is a great way to ease into anal play,” Engle says, “especially before penetration. Rimming stimulates the external nerve ending of the anus and can result in an anal orgasm,” even before penetration.
2. “Be prepared to come in contact with poop:” But also, “Protect your sheets with a dark-colored towel in the event of any mishaps.” Also, use the bathroom before engaging in anal play — it can reduce your chances of having an accident during play.” According to her, anal can get messy so “take a shower and thoroughly wash your anal opening before playtime. Some also like to douche, but that isn’t necessary.”
3. Tap the A-Spot: “Given that the rectum and vagina are so closely located when the anus is penetrated, it can simulate the A-Spot or the anterior fornix erogenous zone, which is part of the internal clitoris. This can happen due to the many shared nerve endings in the anus and vagina. This kind of orgasm doesn’t work for everyone, but to stimulate this area, use a curved toy and press it up toward the belly button.”
4. Sex toys > “Sex toys are an excellent addition to any sexual play, but for anal sex, the number one rule is to use toys designed for the anus and have a plug or base — or you risk losing the toy inside the anus.” For vulva owners, Engle recommends “using anal toys in tandem with external clitoral toys can lead to a blended orgasm. For those with penises, combining a butt toy with the stimulation of the penis can result in explosive pleasure.”
5. Come Hither: Engle’s final tip is for prostate owners, “Massaging the prostate through anal play can elicit a full-body orgasm compared to typical ejaculation.” Think mind-blowing orgasm. Exactly. ”To stimulate the prostate, insert a finger and use a ‘come hither’ motion while your partner is lying on their back. If they are lying on their stomach or on all fours, use the same motion, but aim downward toward the floor.”
For more on anal sex, leading sexual wellness brands Ohnut and b-Vibe teach us how to anal train.
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