
Everything Wrong With Dating in 2023, According to Twitter
Ironically, social media is on the list?
Twitter is known for its viral hottakes and next up on the pipeline: the perils of dating.
User Kay Réion asked her followers, what the worst part of dating in this generation was, and by the looks of the thousands of replies, the collective has had enough of the sh-t dating pool. If you asked us last year, we’d tell you the pandemic ruined dating for us Gen Zers and Millenials, but we’d soon adjust and find out new normal. The issue is, the “new normal” is actually a clusterf-ck.
What’s the worst part of dating in this generation?
— Kay Réion (@itskayreion) August 16, 2023
Of the many issues cited with the current dating pool, three issues stand out. First, everyone is poor, according to social media. From inflation – excuse us, infladating – to the silent recession that people will not dare to discuss, finances are ruining the pleasure of quality time and halting the desire to form new connections. Since the rise of inflation, cohabitating with your ex has become a common occurrence as many cannot afford rent. When you begin to consider unconventional dating styles, for example, polyamorous people with multiple partners, dating becomes even more expensive.
We are traumatized and poor 👍🏾 https://t.co/eL6pGQCOfA
— 💕The Inflammatory Fat💕 (@blackfatqueer) August 17, 2023
Another issue social media users cited is ironically, social media. In recent years, soft launching your partner, the act of slowly introducing them to your followers via an arm on an Instagram story – or whatever the “soft launch” Pinterest board suggests – is most common. According to users, this is due to fear. Fear of finding out your partner is not actually your partner, cue the “Are we sharing boyfriends” Facebook group and public shaming on Twitter.
People rather communicate their issues and emotions that they have with their partner to strangers on social media, rather than actually communicate properly with their partner about them. And then get mad when their partner doesn’t know what’s bothering them. https://t.co/cpIHY1GWH4
— 𝒮𝒶𝓂𝑒𝑒𝓇𝒶𝒽 𓁿 (@soulmuva) August 17, 2023
The third most common type of feedback, most cleverly put by user “we’re traumatized and poor.” There was once a time where someone seeking help in the form of therapy was a positive indicator for change. But as Millenialls and Gen Z age, they’re learning that growth in therapy requires honesty and accountability. But all they’re experiencing is avoidant attachment styles that the pandemic silently encouraged and even weaponized therapy speak — cue the Jonah Hill text fiasco.
Ultimately, the girls have had enough of the sh-t dating pool. Could this be a call for the resurgence of singles tribes?
In other news, our (S)expert Gigi Fong spills all the tea on first dates and sex.